What Other Moms Don’t Tell You About Your Postpartum Body

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DISCLAIMER: This post has descriptive verbiage and diagrams, specifically of a woman’s postpartum body. I am posting this not to make you uncomfortable but to help us educate ourselves on how we can live the best lives possible by taking care of our bodies. This is a community of women helping women and I hope this post can do that for you. Sponsored by Finess.


You hold your new baby in your arms.

Everything you thought you knew about love is now a distant memory.

You stare down at this sweet miracle that you brought into this world and you can’t think of anything else.



As the time passes, and the endorphins wear off, you start to feel the soreness and the fatigue and you soon realize the huge journey your body is now trying to recover from.

Your stomach is still large but soft, since it is no longer carrying a life.

You ache in places you never thought were possible.

You see the journey written on your skin as stretch marks that might not ever fade.



Motherhood is so much more than sleepless nights and poop diapers. It’s hard on our bodies and unfortunately this is the part of motherhood that no one tells you about.

I want to encourage an open dialogue about the ways our bodies are impacted by growing tiny humans. It can be embarrassing, I know because sometimes I feel that embarrassment too, but if we never talk about it we can’t support each other like we need to.



Today I want to share a subject that plagues many women but we still don’t talk about it. 1 in 3 women will suffer from this condition and it baffles me that there is a still a stigma that prevents us from having a conversation.


Stress urinary incontinence (SUI)


Have you ever sneezed, coughed, laughed so hard that you pee yourself? Is it impossible for you to work out without some kind of protection? You might have SUI. If you notice you leak during any type of “stressful” activity you could be one of the many women who have to deal with SUI.

We put a lot of stress on our bodies during pregnancy and  childbirth and there is a high percentage of women who are impacted by SUI because of it.


“Even a seemingly uneventful pregnancy and delivery can change urinary control for up to 50 percent of women,” says Roger Goldberg, M.D., director of urogynecology research at the University of Chicago North Shore University


This condition is so prominent in women, especially mothers, and it’s so important that we talk about it to put down the stigma and help each other live a more comfortable life.

I recently came across this  product called Finess.

Finess helps prevent light to moderate bladder leaks by creating a temporary seal over the urethra (the opening where urine passes out of your bladder). Finess is made from a material found in many medical products used in contact with sensitive tissue, and the components of the hydrogel adhesive have also been used in other medical devices such as contact lenses. It is hard for me to even describe in words how soft Finess feels to the touch. It’s smooth and light and perfect for your the sensitive area of your body.

Here is a little video to show you how Finess works


Up until now our only answer to this plaguing condition was to wear a bulky pad. We all know how uncomfortable that can be, especially when working out. Finess is discreet and comfortable and it’s easy to apply.

Here is a little tutorial on how to apply Finess from the experts themselves:



I know it might seem a little intimidating, trying something new for the first time, but with a few practice tries you will be applying your Finess quickly and easily.


With my bladder issues I found myself making excuses. Coming to terms with the fact there would be things I just couldn’t do. I felt like I had to wrap my mind around the fact that I had to “just deal with it”. Women shouldn’t have to “just deal with it” and I hope by sharing this product I can help bring back those things that you love to do back into your life.


We shouldn’t have to restrict ourselves just because we are mothers.


We can adapt and flourish because of it.


If you are interested in trying Finess for yourself the company was kind enough to offer my readers a coupon code.

Use code: grayrubydiaries for 10% off your order on Finess.com

This is an opportunity for us to take our life back and start doing the things that we love. Maybe it’s having a tickle fest with your toddler or getting back to the exercise routine you love so much. There is no reason why we can’t support each other and get back to doing the things we are passionate about.


Do you think you suffer from SUI? Share your story below.

The more we talk about it the more we can help other mothers feel comfortable in their own skin.


You can read about my home birth HERE and HERE




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  • Reply
    Jaclyn @coffeepancakesanddreams
    October 9, 2017 at 1:34 pm

    Thank you for being so honest and open in your post. I will be sharing this with some of my friends who have recently had babies.

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    Shannan Panganiban
    October 9, 2017 at 7:01 pm

    I totally thought things would go back to normal rather quickly… ha!!

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    October 9, 2017 at 7:54 pm

    I love the raw honesty. I’ve never heard of that product though!

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    Angela Amores
    October 9, 2017 at 10:28 pm

    This was such a good share that really reminded me everything us mommas go through to bring these beautiful babies into the world.

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    October 10, 2017 at 9:31 am

    One of the reasons I’m not 100% sold on having a kid is exactly this- all the physical stress your body is put through during and after pregnancy. Definitely not looking forward to it or even sure it’s something I’d want to deal with….thank you for being so honest!

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    October 10, 2017 at 9:42 am

    As an expecting mama I LOVE reading posts like this! Thank you so much for your honesty!

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    Corey | The Nostalgia Diaries
    October 10, 2017 at 9:47 am

    I’ve never heard of this product, but it sounds like it would be such a help to women who experience this condition after childbirth!

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    October 10, 2017 at 9:59 am

    Wow I never knew something like this existed. I love that we can kick the pads to the curb and try something less “diaper like”.

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    October 10, 2017 at 9:45 pm

    I LOOOOVE that you’re talking about this!!

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    October 11, 2017 at 8:59 am

    yes! Such an important topic for new moms

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    Aly Funk
    October 11, 2017 at 10:56 am

    I still pee a little when I laugh! Haha! I love how real this post is!

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    October 11, 2017 at 1:06 pm

    This is so very great to talk about momma!! Thank you for sharing such intimate things that make things easier to talk about!

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    October 11, 2017 at 8:42 pm

    Yes- thank you for being so open about things because we should be talking about this stuff more often so women know they aren’t alone and its a real thing

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    Julie Hoag
    October 11, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    It’s great that you’ve shared this to help moms. Being pregnant, breast feeding and taking care of kids is super hards on our bodies, but it is totally worth it! I love that this product exists to help out women with this issue after gifing birth.

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    Jaclyn Quinones
    October 12, 2017 at 10:33 am

    I appreciate your honesty! I’m so thankful for not having to have experienced this, but I know many moms have!

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